I know that doula care can sound expensive, especially married with the other costs of pregnancy. All of the appointments, the maternity clothes, the baby gear, it can feel financially overwhelming… And then you see a doula price tag and think, “Oh, no way can I afford that!”
I GET IT… I’ve BEEN there!
However, there’s a few more things to think of and consider.
The average wedding cost in the United States for 2017 was $25,764. Couples, on average, spend between $19,323 and $32,205. That’s NOT including honeymoon costs or engagement rings, parties, etc. A photographer or venue alone can be over 5k each.
Why am I talking about weddings?
Because preparing for your birth is a lot like preparing for a wedding. It’s just as special, eventful, and memorable.
Much like a wedding planner plans and facilitates a wedding- a doula plans and facilitates your birth. We go over birth and help you with a birth plan, we answer questions 24/7, we sacrifice our plans and lives and sleep to be on-call, we put in long hours at your birth location, we attend trainings to better serve birthing people, and we come to your birth with you and your needs in mind.
Sticker shock is real. But doula services are invaluable. If anything, many of us (myself included) could charge more. What I charge is less than a wedding photographer.
Furthermore, I feel the value of a doula is only really perceived and understood after you’ve experienced the level of care we provide. I always hear comments like,
“What would we have done without her?”
“I’m so glad she was here”
“How does anyone birth without a doula?”
and a surprising amount of fathers are the most astounded.
“I was able to leave the room for air or a snack and I knew my wife was in good hands.”
“I wouldn’t have known what to say or do without our doula there”
“Our doula provided me with so much support while my wife labored.”
In abstract it may sound like something non-vital. In reality, in action, in person, it’s hard to imagine labor without a doula.
When you get to the hospital and you don’t know what position to be in, you just want to lay in bed, you see your doctor maybe twice during your entire labor, the pain becomes too much, dad needs a break, the room is stiff and lifeless, all while you’re having contractions! That’s when a loving and professional who’s job is only to be there for YOU… becomes something you can’t see yourself without.
Think of how much you invested in a few hour long wedding. Why not invest in a much longer, more intense, maybe more impactful, event in your family’s life?
And if money is still an issue after those considerations, there are creative ways to afford doula care. You might want to consider:
Adding doula care to your baby registry
Asking for family to chip in
Making small monthly payments
See if your Flex Spending account covers doulas
Cut out non-essentials like to-go coffee
Where there’s a will there’s a way! You DESERVE support and care during one of the most transformational times in your life. Trust me, we understand the cost, but please take a moment to understand our WORTH as birth professionals and your own worth and as a birthing person who deserves a high level of care. You deserve the same level of care and planning as you did when you were getting married.
Questions on how to fit doula services into your budget? I’m happy to help. Feel free to call or text 828.778.1889 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.