Does a doula replace the father or partner? I'm worried about them feeling left out.
Absolutely not. A doula doesn't replace anyone. A doula’s presence helps fathers or partners participate at their own comfort level, showing them how and when to use various comfort techniques, providing information, and in some cases, looking after them as well, because everyone needs a moment to breathe sometimes. As a doula I aim to promote bonding between partners during the pregnancy, labor, and birth process. Think of your birth as if you, your partner, and baby, are the stars of the show and I'm the stage support. I'm in the background, creating a comforting environment, soothing mama through labor waves, providing guidance and respite for the birth partner, and filling whatever need is needed. This is your birth and I'm the helpful shadow.
Why are birth outcomes better with doulas at births?
Multiple randomized control studies have found that the presence of a trained doula benefits everyone. These studies have consistently shown that doula care is associated with shorter labors, less use of epidurals and other pain medications, lower episiotomy rates, and as much as a 50% reduction in the C-section rate. Research has also shown better clinical outcomes for both the mother and the baby (including fewer admissions to neonatal special care units, better breastfeeding rates, and better family bonding). A doula also provides care for the mother’s partner and other family members, assists busy hospital staff, saves money, and greatly increases a mother’s overall satisfaction with her birthing experience.
Are doulas for natural birth only?
No way! I love a good epidural or cesarean birth and can attend any and all birth environments. As a doula I fully support your choices. I don't care if you want to birth in the woods next to a baby deer, or if you want to schedule a cesarean and skip labor altogether. All I care about it supporting you.
Will you make decisions for me?
Never. I will not speak to your health providers and make decisions on your behalf. INSTEAD, I will work to make sure you are informed, answer any questions you may have, and remind you that you are strong, capable, and empowered.
If I'm a single mom, without a partner, would a doula be beneficial?
I have a huge heart for single mothers in my doula practice because I believe so strongly that doulas can be such a huge support to solo-mothers. I want to start off single mom's motherhood journey with them recognizing what a warrior goddess they truly are. From providing resources, to on-call pregnancy support, having someone present at your birth, and someone to help with processing postpartum... A doula for a single mama can be a game changer.
Do you support LGBQT families?
Absolutely. I have training in birth work for LGBQT families and have always been an ally to this vibrant community.
What type of payments do you take?
I believe that any woman that wants a doula should have a doula. Period. And money should not be an obstacle to receiving doula support. That's why I'm very flexible with payments. I offer discounts year round to low income families, teen mothers, mothers placing their babies up for adoption, and single moms. I work with reduced rates, sliding scale, payment plans, and can help you recruit donations for doula services as a part of your baby shower and registry. There's so many options and I'm open to them all! My passion is supporting pregnant and laboring women and I'll do whatever I can to make that care a possibility for you.