Isn't it funny how we wrestle and learn from ourselves? I'm an introvert. I always have been. INFP for life. I've lead a team of 30 people for a major corporation. I've commanded a room of doctors and nurses. I manage a natural health clinic. All of these things i have had to teach myself and learn through being the quiet, introverted person that I am. People often describe me as either "quiet" and or "sweet" and I'll admit sometimes that bothers me. I don't want to be sweet, I want to be fearsome and strong. I don't want to be quiet. I want to speak my opinion loudly and bravely.
But part of my process of accepting myself is accepting that neither of those are truly me. I have to learn to navigate life through the lense of being a quiet, sweet, soft spoken, sensitive, introvert. I have to find the strength and power in that. There IS strength and power in that. It has worked to my advantage countless times in my life. My "soft skills" made my corporate life a huge success. My emotional intelligence means I can anticipate the needs of my doula clients and their providers with a single word or nod and that's so invaluable I've been called "psychic".
Then after it all I just accept the fact that after a day or week filled with people and expectations as we live in a fast paced, extroverted world, I need a day to recharge. I need to sneak away to my quiet van at break time. I need to stay up until midnight even though I'm exhausted because I have to be alone for a few hours. "I need a dark room" is something I often say when I feel myself reaching my limit. And ya know what? That's ok. It's ok to be a sensitive introvert. It's not a curse. It's a gift worth learning.
How have you learned to accept your personality and unique needs?